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sovsemodin
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 Posted - 09/29/2003 : 13:58:50
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What are the differences between Russian and American Men?
Eto ochen’interesniy vopros! I have been thinking about this question a lot recently as I am finding Russian men quite intriguing as I get to know them. Although I have not met too many Russians in my life, only a handful really, I do notice some very interesting characteristics that are quite different from their American counterparts.
To make a fair comparison, I am really thinking of the same social/success level of both groups: middle class, educated, professional.
The first thing that comes to mind is that I think Russian Men are more masculine and sexy (perhaps circumcision DOES make a difference;)))!) Is their strong masculinity because of them being raised in a more traditional family environment or from Russian society as a whole?
Their body language shows a lot of attitude, which is very cool and illustrates a strong sense of who they are. I find this sexy and enjoyable to watch. It also makes me feel more feminine and sexy when I am with them. American men seem a bit “watered down” in this respect. Their masculinity seems diluted into a sort of superficial Hollywood image of how they think they are supposed to be, instead of truly feeling this way. And then there are the guys who just don’t really care- “what...ever”. But most American women seem to like it this way. A big reason for it is the way men and women are portrayed in the media I think. Messeges of what we are supposed to like.
I have this personal theory that here in America, with so many ethnic groups here, inter-marriages, mixed neighborhoods, etc. people become sort of weakened in their own culture unavoidably as they become more American. It is a “Melting Pot” of different cultures and this has its positive and negative effects. American men (and woman) are becoming almost asexual or really more like each other in many ways. Their sexual identity is becoming watered down just like their culture. Just look in any J. Crew, GAP, Banana Republic or Abercrombie & Fitch store or catalogue and you’ll get a sense of genderless attitude. The sporty look rulz baby!
This is not so with Russians. What I enjoy about Russians as a whole is how clearly defined they are. I think the women, as well as the men encourage this strong definition in each other. They feed off of each other’s sexually it seems. I LOVE the Russian women as well! They are very cool.
NOTE: I am talking about the ones who were NOT raised here in this country and who have become more or less, “Americanized”.
Russian men dress like men! I love the way they dress. You never see them wearing shorts and rarely jeans. They seem to take pride in their appearance but I am told that this is a recent development in Russian society. A girlfriend from St. Petersburg told me that there is a saying, “A man who looks better then the devil is a handsome one”.
American men seem to take better care of their teeth and hair. If I had to make one suggestion to Russian guys it would be for ALL of them to get their teeth whitened professionally and have them cleaned every 6 months. I don’t know if it is because of all their smoking or too many antibiotics taken as a child but they will get more girls chasing after them and have more success in job interviews, careers, etc. if they consider this suggestion.
Is it a throwback from communist times that a Russian guy’s uniform seems to be black pants and a black leather jacket?
I mean, I think I would just fall off my bar stool if a Russian walked into a bar wearing, God forbid, a BROWN suede coat! Is the black leather really a fetish for dog’s noses?
Seriously, I do like all the black and think it adds to the mystique of Russian Males.
As for manners, Russian men are far more gallant. They hold car doors open for ladies because they want to, not because they have to. Or at least, they do a pretty good job making me believe this:)) I have NEVER been treated so well as by a Russian man. They have much better manners then their American counterpart and the Russian women that I have talked to about this all agree!
I mean, sure, when I go to a store like WAWA for example to get a cup of coffee, guys will hold the door open always but that’s not really going out of their way. I do it even for other women because I think it is polite but American guys are so into themselves that they don’t put women first. I think Russian guys DO put women first when they are with them. That in turn makes women feel more appreciated and feminine and hopefully will give their man the devotion they deserve.
As far as personality? Russians are definitely cockier. But their cockiness is amusing which brings me to their sense of humor. I have NEVER met funnier guys! Da, ochen cynical and sarcastic with a lot of irony but soooooooo funny and clever! SO intelligent!
Devotion to family seems to be such a wonderful characteristic as well. I think that it is valid to say that some American families are not as strong as they once were and it seems that the Russian culture offers values (at least on the surface) that focus on placing importance on family.
Some of the Russians I know are the sweetest guys I have ever met with the nicest manners. I only hope that as they spend more time in this country that they don’t lose sight of these wonderful characteristics that they possess that make them so special. Several people have told me that Russian women are more likely to become “more American” then Russian men. I hope this is true. I mean, I adore Russian women as well but I just hope that they BOTH, don’t become too “Americanized”.
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Yuray
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Posted - 09/29/2003 : 14:14:34
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| WOW!! No,seriously, I'm impressed,can we post it in New York Times or smthng?:))) Thanks, Masha, as a part of these "Cool Russian Men Party" I'm proud to be one!! U r not bad for an amerikan girl either:)) |
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stasevich
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Posted - 09/29/2003 : 14:27:39
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Da, Mar'ya Really thanks, U might wanna elaborate more on some topics, feel free..
So yellow teeth, huh?
That's it! i'm setting the appointment for whitening, to have chicks chase me.
What's the Chasing Chicks Per Clean White tooth ratio? Is 1to1?
What if you do only upper teeth? Does this mean only upper class girls will start to pursue me?
Please explain.
But really traditionally dental hygiene was not so overblown as here in US, I mean, dental visits were not common thing, esp. for kids, I remember everyone was trying to avoid that scheduled dentist appointment at school.
Big part of it was due to not so pleasant experience at the dentist, back 10-15 years ago, I'm sure its better now, but back than it was hell mostly:)
And I don't recall seeing anyone with braces, here its common.
As far as black/ same type of clothing, u should see the Brooklyn cats, it's even more amusing.
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sovsemodin
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Posted - 09/29/2003 : 14:52:03
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Spasibo guys!
u showed a good example of Russian humor Stas:)
"What if you do only upper teeth? Does this mean only upper class girls will start to pursue me?"
aga, and if you want girls with great boob jobs? Get them capped
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Nik TO
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Posted - 09/30/2003 : 12:22:54
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If you see a guy wearing shorts with brown or other color socks pulled up to his knees and wearing sandal you can always say he is Russian. So i don't know where writer of this hangs out.
P.S. Most of our muscule hidden behind soft layers of fat:):)
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Yuray
2575 Posts |
Posted - 09/30/2003 : 13:19:23
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| Nik To, don't be hard on yourself |
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Yuray
2575 Posts |
Posted - 09/30/2003 : 17:19:51
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- Äåâóøêà, êàêèå ó âàñ êðàñèâûå, ðîâíûå, áåëûå çóáû!
- Äà (ñìóùàåòñÿ). Îíè äîñòàëèñü ìíå îò áàáóøêè
- Íàäî æå êàê ïîäîøëè! Ñèäÿò êàê ðîäíûå!
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sovsemodin
1778 Posts |
Posted - 09/30/2003 : 20:53:49
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"If you see a guy wearing shorts with brown or other color socks pulled up to his knees and wearing sandal you can always say he is Russian. So i don't know where writer of this hangs out."
Nik TO: I thought only Germans dressed like that? SO.. if I ever showed up at one of Krasota and Myxa's picniks all the guys would actually be dressed like that? Scary thought:))). yeah..
I hang out mostly in bus stations and 12th & Vine,you know ME!:)))
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sovsemodin
1778 Posts |
Posted - 09/30/2003 : 21:09:31
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"- Devushka, kakie u vas krasivye, rovnye, belye zuby!
- Da (smuwaetsja). Oni dostalisü mne ot babushki
- Nado zhe kak podoshli! Sidjat kak rodnye!"
Yura, I know you, u wrote this in cyrillic on purpose didn't u:))?
This is driving me NUTS:))! Is this a quote from "Little Red Riding Hood"?
"Grandma... what white teeth you have?"
"The better to eat you with..YURA":))!
or should I say: "My babooska etta Russkaya"? |
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stasevich
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Posted - 09/30/2003 : 23:44:40
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say whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?
Masha talk more about Russian men, expand the topic:)
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sovsemodin
1778 Posts |
Posted - 10/01/2003 : 08:29:51
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I was chatting on the phone last night with a girlfriend's husband who is from Kiev and told him about how I thought Russian men were better and he replied, "depends on what time of year". He told me that in the fall and winter they are awful! He was serious!
This is very funny to me:))
So... since I have really only known u guys since early spring I should expect severe changes in your personalities soon;)))? Is this a kind of Russian male PMS? |
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stasevich
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Posted - 10/01/2003 : 09:38:41
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Get off the Forum bitch, I am sick and tired of you lame bullshit!!!
p.s.
what changes:)?
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sovsemodin
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Posted - 10/01/2003 : 09:42:19
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That was soooo funny! XA! XA! XA!
ochen xorosho:)) |
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American vs. Russian Men
